When I lived overseas I heard quite a few of the missionaries from other organizations use curse words. Not a lot and never in reference to someone else, but enough to make me wonder about it. I was talking to a good christian friend about it once and she told me…
I don’t happen to think cursing is a sin. What difference does it make to God if we say darn or damn? Now he might get offended if we use his name in vain.
I thought a lot about those words. They were freeing. I never cursed nor did I feel the need to start peppering my speech with those words, but I felt the weight of judgement leave me. Before, anytime I heard anyone say anything I deemed inappropriate a wall went up, and I automatically judged them. It wasn’t a conscious thing. It just happened. Immediately I thought…oh, they must not be a Christian/have morals, or…too bad, they must have come from a dysfunctional family, or…what a shame, they probably aren’t the best parent. I didn’t bother to watch and see if any of those things were true. The words were enough to make it true.
On my other blog my audience started out quite narrow. Family and friends from church. Later friends I’d met and co-laborers were added to my audience. It never would have occurred to me to use any sort of foul language due to my audience. I knew their sensibilities. I knew some of them might be offended. Even as my audience grew to include people I didn’t know, people who said all kinds of things on their blogs, and a host of others I still never used curse words due to the fact that the original audience was still reading.
Now, on this blog, things have been slightly different. I’ve used a few forbidden words here and there. Not much, but enough that I’m sure it’s been noticed by the few people from the old blog who’ve been invited to read here. And to them I offer this. In my daily life I will on occasion say hell or damn or ass. That’s pretty much it. I will not use those words in front of those people who I know will be offended. I don’t need to make a statement.
Furthermore, when I hear curse words used by those around me I don’t judge them. I don’t let that be a barrier to friendship. I don’t put up walls based on words. I let actions speak louder.