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The Cure

Candied Jansen and I moved in together at the beginning of July, and it has been somewhat of a rollercoaster ride ever since.  SO many things have happened that have pretty much stressed us the heck out!  We are paying rent and the mortgage on my house.  It’s been on the market since the end of July, but has barely seen any activity.  It is definitely a financial burden we weren’t expecting to last quite this long!

We also have stressed some over eating habits.  She is a much healthier eater than I am, and having junk food in the house is very stressful for her.  She wants to protect herself and her son from the temptation, and I totally get it.  I have tried to do better, and I have definitely made some positive changes, but it is still the number one thing that causes issues.  Since I am borderline diabetic, she worries about what I eat which I mostly appreciate.  I do love that we are eating healthier meals and planning together.  It is just a big change for me to not bake or cook some of the old standby recipes on a regular basis.  Tonight I used flour for the first time in 2 months in a healthier version of beef stroganoff which was quite yummy!  It is one of those things that we are working through as we go along.  I have no doubts that we will learn to merge our eating lives together in a way that satisfies both of us.

Another stressor has been school.  I was off all summer, of course, and starting back to school wiped me out!  It does it every year, but I seem to forget that until I’m in the midst of the exhaustion.  I would come home from work and not want to cook or even eat some of the time.  I was basically a lump on the bed anytime Candied Jansen and I were together those first 4 weeks of school.  Last week was the first week that I didn’t feel that extreme exhaustion when school was out.  I’m so glad that stage has passed.

I think we’ve both done a lot of soul searching over the last two months.  I still have absolutely no doubt that she is my perfect match.  We’ve just been trying to figure out how we fit together in the same house.  We are both strong, independent women, and figuring out how to share a house with each other is still a work in progress.  I don’t mind.  I think good, strong relationships take work.  Thankfully, Candied Jansen feels the same way.

Some exciting news is that we plan to get married!  We learned of the Supreme Court’s decision granting gay marriage rights in all states on a day we were together in the new house.  It was nice being with each other at that moment.  We anticipated that event happening back in April and went to one of my favorite jewelry stores to see if they had or could make us rings.  I thought we were just looking, but when they said they could make them, Candied Jansen was ready to commit!  I LOVE that about her! We picked up our original rings a couple of weeks later and LOVE them!  We knew then that we were probably going to wait until November to get married because it worked the best with our schedule.  So that’s the plan!  I can’t wait to put those rings on our fingers!

And speaking of getting married…Candied Jansen told her mother and stepfather about our plans.  They were excited for us and want to give us a honeymoon.  We hadn’t planned to take a big trip because we have the trip to Turkey planned for the spring, but we did plan to do something close to home.  Now we are getting a bit more of a honeymoon than we planned thanks to her family.

It all reminds me of that song by The Cure…Friday, I’m in Love.  Because no matter how frustrating the days can be, whether from exhaustion or the burden of finances or food…I’m madly in love with her!  And that’s the way I like it!!

Friday I’m In Love
By The Cure
I don’t care if Monday’s blue
Tuesday’s gray and Wednesday too
Thursday I don’t care about you
It’s Friday I’m in love
Monday you can fall apart
Tuesday Wednesday break my heart
Thursday doesn’t even start
It’s Friday I’m in love
Saturday wait
And Sunday always comes too late
But Friday never hesitate
I don’t care if Monday’s black
Tuesday Wednesday heart attack
Thursday never looking back
It’s Friday I’m in love
Monday you can hold your head
Tuesday Wednesday stay in bed
Or Thursday watch the walls instead
It’s Friday I’m in love
Saturday wait
And Sunday always comes too late
But Friday never hesitate
Dressed up to the eyes
It’s a wonderful surprise
To see your shoes and your spirits rise
Throwing out your frown
And just smiling at the sound
And as sleek as a shriek
Spinning round and round
Always take a big bite
It’s such a gorgeous sight
To see you in the middle of the night
You can never get enough
Enough of this stuff
It’s Friday
I’m in love


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